Affirm by definition means you are declaring something to be true. Another definition is you are supporting or upholding the validity of something.
Self-affirmations are positive statements or self-declarations that can condition the subconscious mind so that you can develop a more positive perception of yourself. Affirmations can help you to change harmful behaviors or accomplish goals. They can help undo the damage caused by negativity brought onto yourself , or negativity brought on by others. both of which contribute to a negative self-perception. Affirmations are easy to create and use, but you’ll need dedication to make them work.
The use of affirmations is not all about the words you repeat but your belief in those words. Our body sends off vibrations based on what we say. It is possible that those vibrations can be completely in line or very far apart from one another. If you state an intention for abundance into your life but you are doing it out of the lack, your vibration and signal that you are sending out will be for the lack. Truly believe the abundance, no matter what it may be for (abundance of love, joy, happiness, etc.). It is already in your life and be grateful for it. And remember there are no limitations, the only limitations are the ones that you believe exist. It is important to remove all doubt from your mind.
Watch, look, and listen to affirmations a few times a day until they become an automatic thought.
Here are some useful tips in helping use affirmations:
1. TAKE A POSITIVE INVENTORY OF YOURSELF – List all of your best qualities about yourself and use the words, ” I am …,” to note them and confirm who you are. Focus on the positive qualities you possess rather than just the things we want to change.
2. GOALS AND NEGATIVE PERCEPTIONS – List your goals and /or the harmful self-perceptions you want to change.
Affirmations can be used to counter-act negative perceptions you developed and believe about yourself.
3. PRIORITIZE – Choose the ones that are most important or most urgent. Work on developing affirmations for those first. Once you see an improvement or accomplish a goal, you can then develop new affirmations for other items on your list.
4. WRITE YOUR AFFIRMATIONS - There are two kinds of future oriented affirmations that can help you achieve your goals.
a. “I can…” statements which affirm the fact that you can achieve your goal ( Ex. if you want to quit smoking, a statement such as “I can quit smoking,” is a good start but, it is recommended to avoid using any sort of negative connotation, so that you would instead say something like “I can free myself from smoking,” or “I can become smoke-free.”
b.”I will…” statements affirming that you will actually use your ability to achieve your goal. So, following the above example, you could say, “I will be smoke-free today,” or “I will smoke fewer cigarettes today than yesterday.” Again, the affirmation should use positive language and should simply express what you will do today to achieve the longer-term goal.
5. MATCH THEM UP – Take the positive qualities you listed in Step 1 and match them up with the specific goals you want to achieve. Include these in your affirmations. If you’re quitting smoking, for example, you may need willpower or courage, or you may need to reflect on the fact that you are beautiful or that you care about your family. It will confirm to you that you already possess some of the ingredients for you to achieve your goals.
6. REPETITION IS KEY - Repetition is the key to making affirmations effective. You want to think about your affirmations several times a day, every day. Here are several ways to do this:
a. Write your affirmations in a journal
b. Meditate on your affirmations
c. Construct reminder cards and leave them in various places you see often
d. Carry affirmations with you everyday
7. CONTINUE USING AFFIRMATIONS - Remember, the more you do something, the more it becomes routine and habit. The more you say your affirmations, the more firmly your mind will accept it
- Don’t be discouraged if your affirmations don’t seem to help at first. Instead, think about how you are using them. Do you really believe them? If you don’t believe the affirmations, they can still be effective, but it will take longer. If you’re tired of waiting, make sure your goals are attainable and set reasonable expectations for when you want to attain them.
- Affirmations can be used in combination with visualizations to increase the effectiveness of both. By visualizing your affirmations, you can make them more real in your mind. Include mental visualization using as many of your five senses (sight, sound, smell, taste, touch) as appropriate.
- If you don’t want people to know about your affirmations, just place your reminders in discreet locations. Remember, however, that it’s important that you see them frequently, or they’ll do you no good.
- If you find yourself simply parroting the words of your affirmations, instead of concentrating on their meaning, change affirmations. You can still affirm the same goals or characteristics, of course, but rephrasing your affirmations can rejuvenate their effectiveness.
- Make a recording in your own voice and play it as you fall asleep. Some people swear by this method.
- NOTE: It is said that if one is using a recorded version of affirmation, it must be recorded in Second Person, that is using ‘YOU’.
- Example: “You are maintaining a healthy body-weight”
- Attach positive emotions to your affirmations. Think about how achieving your goal will make you feel, or think about how good it feels to know that you are good at something. Emotion is a fuel which makes affirmations more powerful.
- Gratitude is a type of affirmation: One that says the following: “I enjoy and value the good in my life and trust that more will come my way”.
Affirmations are not a quick fix to all your problems. Do not expect a miracle, especially not overnight. It took a long time for you to be the person you are and the way you think. So, it will take some time to change things. If you focus on what you need and want to and not how long it takes, change will happen faster than you think.
~ By Daniel Chimenti